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What dads can do ?
Its a great pleasure to know that your spouse is pregnant. But the fact is that you are also "expecting". You meaning "fathers" are expecting this baby too, isn't it? Unfortunately, you have to struggle your way to fatherhood. It is believed that "conceiving" the baby is a couple's task but "expecting" a baby is mother's task. Raising the child is "mommy's" job and providing resources is "dad's" job. In order to break these rules, fathers will have to have these FIVE essentials :
1. Start early:
Get yourself involved right from pregnancy time. For example,
Accompany your partner for doctor visits
Plan the baby's welcome together
attend pre-natal informative classes
make suitable changes in your lifestyle
make her pregnancy, mood-swings a pleasurable and memorable journey
connect with the baby, talk to the baby in the womb
prepare for all safe and secure delivery arrangements
read books and put on good soothing music for your spouse and baby
2. Make time:
Fathers need to alter their schedules on the news of arrival of the baby. "Just don't pay the rent, now you are a PARENT dear! Do not over-work just because you have another mouth to be fed. Instead enjoy with the baby because these precious moments will not come-back. His 1st smile, 1st attempt to sit, 1st attempt to walk, talk, 1st words said,1st cricket shot, 1st nurses rhyme, etc... Make it at the right time!
3. Show your love:
Hugging, holding, cuddling, kissing and doing all sort of gentle actions would not make you less manly. Affection is reassuring. It conveys love in a way that words and worries cannot convey.
4. Lighten up:
Enjoy your child's company. They are yours, trust me! Teach them what you know and learn some new things along with your child. Reduce stress, competition and performance-oriented things into pleasure, joy and laughter.
5. Heavy down:
Though it may sound contrary to the earlier point, what I mean is get involved in decisions and discussions with your partner while deciding things for the family or children. Be communicating with your partner regarding big things in life.
"How are we doing as a family?"
"What changes are needed?"
"How can we achieve them together?", etc.
Let not your partner ever say that she has one more additional child to be managed besides your children, and that one is you.
